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Overcoming your fear of public speaking may not be difficult

Overcoming your fear of public speaking may not be difficult at all, as long as you know and understand the nature of how that fear came to be.

For many people, the very thought of speaking in front of people or an audience is reasoning enough for them to be afraid.

These may be due to several reasons, the fear of committing a mistake in the middle of the process, public scrutiny, shame and not meeting up to expectations, are among the many and common reasons why people fear the thought of going in front of the public.

But for starters, the first step in helping you overcome that fear is to know how to study and prepare.

Nothing beats research and preparation, after all, if you sum up all the factors that make up the fear of public speaking is uncertainty. It is the general thought of uncertainty, that makes the fear more frightening and makes people feel anxious.

However, with research and careful preparation, it may not predict any uncertain circumstances that may come your way, but can surely diminish the fear of unpreparedness and inadequacy of information that you can surely remove from the fear equation.

First things first, know and anticipate what to expect.

Try to get information about the audience as to age, gender, occupation or personality levels or character.

This will give you basic information about how you may carry on with your presentation, what things to say or not to say or even ideas on how you may be able to win them over to your way of thinking or ideas.

As much as possible, get to know what the audience generally feels about the topic at large, which will provide you with good points to stress your ideas.

Also, take note of the audiences treatment of the subject for discussion, since it will provide you with an idea for the flow of your topic.

So before speaking in front of a crowd, avoid the notion that you are perfect and that you cannot make mistakes.

Always come prepared, since you need to make sure that you need to get your message across in the most concise and comprehensible manner possible.

You don’t need to be perfect, all that is needed is for you to be prepared and ready since this will make you less fearful of committing a mistake.

Having only two or three main ideas or points can aid in providing more meat and focus on any message, rather than a cauldron of facts and figures that may sometimes cause more confusion instead of driving home the message.

Making a mistake during the presentation process is nothing to be fearful about, nor should it be a cause for stress.

It is also important to know the key factors in making the presentation, first, know what may be expected since this will give you an idea on how you may address the audience.

Lastly, always try to buy yourself into what ideas you would like to convey since being uncertain about one idea and selling it to others can only end up in a variety of shameful or embarrassing experiences. So take these ideas to heart, since this is not rocket science and tell you that overcoming your fear of public speaking may not be difficult after all.

Public Speaking: The Differences Between a Man and a Woman . . . in the Audience that is . . .

There is nothing I like better than an all-female public speaking audience. All female audiences tend to laugh more easily and louder than all-male audiences. All-male audiences are the toughest because the male ego gets in the way of laughter. They look around to see if anyone else is laughing before they laugh, and they won’t laugh as loud because they think they will look less powerful.

If you speak to an all-male audience it is more critical to bond and be “one of the guys” especially if you are a female speaker. I’m not being sexist here. I don’t believe in sexist language. I’m just giving you the thoughts to keep in mind if you are a female speaker and you want to be successful speaking in front of a general all-male audience. You must realize: not all males out there in the business world are as sensitive as me (send all big hugs to me in care of my publisher). If your all-male audience consists of a general public audience, not from the same company or field, stick to sports, business, and money to best connect with them.

One of the hardest audiences to deal with consists of a group of executives from the same company when the CEO is present. If you say something funny, the executives will start to laugh, but they choke it off until they check to see if the CEO is laughing. If he or she is laughing, then they go ahead and laugh. This kind of audience will create timing nightmares for you. If you are the CEO and you are in the audience for a presentation, it is your obligation to laugh and at least act like you’re having a good time to “give permission” to everyone else to laugh. As a good public speaker, you can sometimes take it upon yourself to gently explain to the CEO how everyone will look to him or her for approval.

Audiences that consist of more than 50 percent women is good too because. The presence of the females provides a good buffer and makes it OK for the men to laugh since so many other people are laughing.

 

Public speaking – the first 3 minutes

  • This is it! You’ve landed your first Public Speaking engagement. You’ve have prepared and rehearsed. You are all ready to give your best presentation ever.

    As you begin you have exactly 3 minutes of your presentation to grab the audience attention and build rapport to ensure they buy into what you have to say.

    In the first 3 minutes of your presentations, your audience is sizing you up. They are deciding whether they like you and whether are you worth listening to. If you lose your audience in the first 3 minutes you will be playing catch up for the rest of the presentation.

    Why at the first 3 minutes of your public speaking engagement is the most important period of your presentation? This is the time where the attention of the audience is naturally high and focused. Here is where the audience decides to hear you out or not. First Impression counts and you have only one chance at it.

    In this crucial period, you need to build rapport with your audience. Rapport is a prerequisite for effective communication. Before presenting any material you must build rapport with your audience.

    When people are like each other, they like each other. When you have enough rapport with your audience, they will feel acknowledge and engage with you in your presentation.

    You can build rapport with your audience by;

    – Using the words they use. Use their Jargon’s and preferred terms.

    – Use the same tonality and say it like they do

    – Use the same gestures and postures.

    People create bonds with each other by finding shared experiences. Tell a story to your audience which relays to them that you are exactly like them. Meet as many of your audience before the presentation and build rapport with them individually.

    Right from the start let your audience define their own expectation and do your best to meet those expectations. Experiment with different types of openers to see which builds more rapport for you and with your audience. Be flexible, use as many different openers and evaluate your results. The openers which build more rapport with your audience for you will be the best ones. The types of openers that you can look into are;

    Current Events

    Humorous

    Pictorial

    Anecdotal

    Pertinent Quote

    Real-World Situation

    Rhetorical

    Musical

    If you have built enough rapport with your audience in the first 3 minutes of your presentation the rest of your presentation will move smoothly. You will have an engaging audience and you will be able to have fun with them and be yourself on stage.

    Remember the first 3 minutes of your presentation is the most crucial of all. Start off your presentation with the right foot.

Top Tips For An Amazing Speech Or Presentation

Do you have to speak in public for your job? Do you wish that you could be a more effective speaker? Being afraid of public speaking is a common thing. This article will help you. Review these ideas to determine your weak areas.

Regardless of how much experience you have, it is never easy to get an audience involved with what you’re saying. You have to work at getting attention and work hard to keep it. You will actually be performing, and that results in needing to do the work necessary to get people to care about what you want them to care about.

You should know your speech by heart. Once you have your speech memorized, then the delivery method you choose can be worked on. By memorizing your speech ahead of time, it also gives you the confidence to ad lib parts of it while you are on stage.

If you want to speak and public and make a good impression, then preparation is essential. Have a good understanding of what you are trying to say. Support as many of your statements as you can with research. Jot down notes on what you would like to say. Repeat your words so that you know what you need to say. Being prepared will make you confident when you step up to the podium.

Learn as much as you can about the subject you are presenting. You should even know facts and jokes about the topic of your speech. Work them in where you think they fit and will engage your current audience. Your thorough knowledge of the subject is also great in the Q and A that follows up the speech.

Practice your speech frequently once you have it memorized. Tweak it as necessary. Also, refine your pace. Insert spaces into your speech that allow for interruptions, such as applause. Whenever possible, practice your speech on the very equipment you will use.

When preparing to make a speech, be sure to understand the concept of your topic first. Research the topic thoroughly. Carefully hone in on your own points and prepare your remarks carefully in clear notes that you will be able to follow easily. When questioned about your topic, you will find your good preparation invaluable.

Know the crowd makeup before you give the speech. If at all possible, find out who the people are in the crowd. If possible, greet them as they enter the room and ask their names. It can make it easier to talk in front of your audience.

Know the room before you speak in public. Understand the distance your voice can travel. Use the equipment to get used to it. Learn the proper use of visual aids that you are incorporating. Get a good handle on the eye-contact range you will need to make.

You really have what it takes to speak well in public. You just need to practice. The ideas you have just learned will help you immensely. Keep using the tips often. With time, you are certain to become more confident. This will give you a terrific advantage, especially at your place of work.

Speak with more than your voice

There is a bit of a misperception about the phrase “public speaking”. The misperception that the technique of becoming good at public speaking is all in how you speak. The truth is that your voice is only part of what you need to be successful in giving a presentation to a group of people. To be an effective public “speaker”, you should use every resource you have including your body language, your arms and your legs to capture the attention of the crowd and hold it.

There is nothing more boring than a speaker who stands in one place and never moves his arms and speaks softly just putting out the information of the talk. So to avoid this curse, learn not only to communicate with your entire being when you are in front of an audience. Learn to express yourself with facial expressions, with gestures of your arms and with movement. Because that extra effort is what can make a fair presentation good or a good presentation a great one.

A good public presentation can be compared to eating a meal in a restaurant. A good chef knows that there is more to fine dining than just food because you also must have good service and ambiance so the presentation of the food makes the meal delightful to eat. The same is true of a public speaking situation. It isn’t enough just to stand up there and speak out the information. You are not just speaking because you are only really successful when you are communicating. And to communicate, your audience has to grasp what you are saying and be prepared to make it real in their own lives.

Movement is probably the most underused public speaking method but it is also one of the most effective. To put it bluntly, when you speak to a group, don’t just stand there. Get out of the podium and move around a bit. Walk from one side of your speaking area to the other. Use your hands to help you describe an illustration or to gesture with emphasis toward the crowd when your text fits that kind of expression. This movement is good for you because itís a way of walking off your nervousness. It’s good for the audience because it keeps them interested. And it’s very good for your presentation because it is a powerful way to get your point across and to assure you are being understood.

The relationship between public speaking and public performance is unmistakable. When you watch a speaker, the key word is “watch”. Taking in the presentation of a speaker is an event that brings in all of the senses. And the more your audience actually “experiences you” rather than just hears what you say, the better they will like your presentation and the more likely they will be to agree with what you have to say or take action in the direction you had hoped they would.

Of course, it can be a nervous moment the first time you decide to step away from the podium and use your body as part of your presentation. If you walk and move in front of people, there is always the chance an accident can happen. You could swing your arms in emphasis and knock something over. You could trip over a microphone cord and be in danger of falling down. Or your wardrobe could malfunction because of the increased stress and that would be a horrible thing to deal with when everyone is looking at you. You can do take some extra measures to be sure your wardrobe is secure beforehand and to evaluate the speaking setting so you are aware of potential causes of accidents. But the possibility of a mishap is just a risk that you should be prepared to take because the movement you use is so powerfully effective that the rewards are too great to pass up.

The other risk is that by stepping away from the podium, you step away from your outline. To enable yourself to wean away from having to have that outline in front of you all the time, select one or two sections where you will depart the outline and share a personal story. Then your movement will be confident and effective. And when you can integrate confident movement into your presentation, your public speaking skills will go from good to great instantaneously.

 

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